Shah Rukh, Aamir Khan’s surrogacy decision inspires childless couples
When news first surfaced that SRK and wife Gauri had signed up for a baby by surrogacy, it seemed like a wild rumour.
However, as things turned out, the reports turned out to be true what with Bollywood’s power couple announcing the joyous addition of AbRam to their family.Preceding SRK was that other Bollywood premier league twosome; perfectionist actor and now activist, Aamir Khan and wife Kiran, who, long before presswallahs could get wind of it, made public their decision of opting for a surrogate baby.
Truth be told, every aspect of a Bollywood star’s life is followed with great curiosity much to their chagrin, but in going public with details on this very personal and sensitive matter, the Khan duo have rendered yeoman’s service to numerous childless couples in India.
Why, a conversation I overheard in a Mumbai local train compartment between two ladies in their 50s was rather heartening. One was inquiring after the likelihood of the other’s daughter-in-law bearing her a grandchild and the lady’s reply was revealing. “If her health does not permit it then they could go in for surrogacy or even adopt. After all, if bade log like Aamir Khan and Shah Rukh Khan can do it, then it surely must be okay.”
The nascent assisted reproductive technology industry — surrogacy was legalised in India in 2002 — is already a booming multimillion dollar industry within India, and yet one that is talked about in hushed tones.
With our patriarchal social moorings, predictably, the shame of being “barren” has for most part been shouldered by women, even though men have had to bear their share of the cross of shame only through oblique references to their shortcomings in the virility department. Given the accompanying social hazards, it is understandable that matters of assisted reproduction are usually kept under wraps for as long as possible.
Well, no longer. Aamir and Kiran’s proud declaration of the arrival of Baby Azad with SRK following suit has undeniably changed that. This very public and transparent acknowledgment to put things in perspective, even if it was a corollary of their celebrity status — they would be quizzed about it sooner than later — broke several taboos all at once. In one swoop, the stigma around the procedure seems to have vanished. Suddenly, several celebrity conception miracles pulled off decades earlier seem to have found an explanation and surrogacy secrets are being shared with great pride. A far cry from the earlier embarrassment that accompanied such confidential information.
Celebrities have been known to espouse causes but seldom has it felt as genuine as Aamir and Kiran’s unapologetic and informative conversations on the subject. And Shah Rukh following suit has helped the cause further.
A film star’s biggest virtue they say, is to convincingly pull off unimaginable feats on the 70mm screen, sometimes even compelling their audiences to follow suit.
Now they seem to be setting a fine example off screen too and for a good cause at that.